“Emotional blackmail is a powerful form of manipulation in which people who are close to us threaten, either directly or indirectly, to punish us to get what they want. Knowing that we want love or approval, blackmailers threaten to withhold it or take it away altogether, or make us feel we must earn it. If you believe the blackmailer, you could fall into a pattern of letting him/her control your decisions and behavior.
Blackmailers create a thick ‘fog ’ that obscures their actions. FOG is a shorthand way of referring to Fear, Obligation and Guilt. Blackmailers pump up an engulfing FOG into their relationships, ensuring that we feel afraid to cross them, obligated to give them their way and terribly guilty if we don’t.”—
Susan Forward, Emotional Blackmail - When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt To Manipulate You (via disabledbyculture)
I’m so sad when instances like this get swept under the rug like it didn’t happen or matter. But it did happen and it does matter…..blegggg….sorry for the personal stuff…..
People always make Juliet out to be dumb in Romeo and Juliet, but I think she at least had some sense where Romeo didn't have much of any
Romeo:I was thinking about this chick earlier who I said I was in love with but now I love that girl over there that is very likely to either belong to my family's enemy or be close with my family's enemy as it is their party I am crashing
Juliet:I do not like being so young and forced into a relationship with an older man, but oh there's a cute guy more my age over there. And since he's here he must have been invited and is there for a reasonable love match for myself
Romeo:We should kiss right now at this party
Juliet:No that is a super dumb idea
Romeo:*kisses her anyway*
Juliet:That was dumb of you
Romeo:We should get married right now
Juliet:We don't know each other. Shouldn't we wait until at least a little time has passed?
Juliet:We're married now, so we have to try and make things better between our families.
Romeo:It seems I have killed your cousin and am now exiled.
Juliet:Ok so since Romeo fucked up I'm gonna fix this shit by taking a harmless sleeping liquid. He'll come and get me and we can go away together.